Respect Is Not and Option

The older I get, the more I realize that many of the issues we face in life are based on misunderstanding due to miscommunication. If folks just learned how to speak to one another, many disagreements with be stopped before they ever have a chance to start. Being a person who likes to talk a lot (my friends and family would probably say that is an understatement!) it has a been a true change in mindset and behavior for me to listen. There is a quote that says something like, "God have us two hears and one mouth, so that we can listen twice as much as we speak." This is so true. Communication is not about forcing your thoughts and opinions on others or being able to master language in order to convince people that what you think and feel is right. True effective communication is based on your ability to receive, process, analyze and the thoughts and feelings of the person you are attempting to communicate with and respond in an understanding manner. This is definitely not an easy task. Some people like the drama, the thrill of controversy and confrontation. 

I cannot front, I used to be one of those people that jumped at the opportunity to make my voice heard in a room full of beckoning ears. As I have matured, I have chosen to exercise discretion and be more selective about what I say and when I say it. However, one thing I have very little tolerance for is disrespect. The old saying "Stick and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me" is NOT true. Words can and do hurt. There is power of life and death in the tongue and we should all respect that power. I didn't mean to start this post off preaching LOL I guess I just had some things on my mind and in my heart that needed to come out. 

This blog is supposed to be about shoes, and I have not forgotten that LMAO! I choose this particular pair of Louboutin beauties because they COMMAND RESPECT, in a sexy feminine kind of way. :) When I look at these shoes they say "Shut up and watch me work!" and " You may speak when give you the go ahead." LOL!! I love it!!!There is no feeling idea, or general thought that comes to my mind that I cannot relate to a pair of shoes! Yes.... to answer going through your mind right now, it is a gift lol.

Being the very vocal woman that I am (LOL) I don't feel the need to hide my feelings. Everyone should feel comfortable speaking their mind. However, the things on your mind should not and will not taint my mental and emotional space. I will not allow it. If we talk a little more time to look at how we communicate (myself included) it would just save so much drama and hurt feelings. 

So the lesson for today is, when you start speaking to someone and they drift into space, start checking their cell phone, their forehead starts to get those little waves in it, or they just look like they want to cuss you, think about what you are saying and HOW you are saying it. Getting the thoughts out doesn't mean as much if the person you are trying to talk to doesn't receive it the way you are intending it. And that is the L-Boogie thought of the day.... thank you :) 

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